What does neurotypical mean?

NT is short for neurotypical and is often used to refer to people who are not on the autism spectrum. It is a combination of the words “neurological” and “typical”.

No, no. I trust your judgement. Implicitly. You’re just wrong.
—  Hy Conrad, Mr. Monk Helps Himself

NTs are wired differently to those with AS and have usually developed the social skills that the AS person lacks.

Some common issues for partners of people with Asperger syndrome include:

  • Failure to have their own needs met by the relationship.
  • Lack of emotional support from family members and friends who don’t fully understand the additional strain placed on a relationship by Asperger syndrome.
  • Feeling isolated because the challenges of their relationship are unique and therefore not easily understood by others.
  • Frustration as the same problems arise again and again and never seem to be resolved or improve.
  • Feeling overly responsible for their partner.
  • Doubting the integrity of the relationship or wondering whether or not to end it.
  • Difficulty accepting that their partner will not ‘recover’ from Asperger’s syndrome.
  • After accepting that Asperger’s Syndrome can’t be ‘cured’, it is common for partners to feel guilt, despair and disappointment.

Learning about Asperger’s Syndrome is the first step towards understanding why you feel the way you do. The next, really important, step is for you to get back in touch with you. Because you’re worth it!