Asperger’s Community Recommended Reading

Here we have listed books that other readers have enjoyed and found helpful or thought provoking. If you use the specific Amazon links below to purchase any of these books, Different Together will receive commission via the Amazon UK Associates Programme. All funds raised will help to ensure the sustainability of Different Together. Thank you!

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On the other hand, I think cats have Asperger’s. Like me, they’re very smart. And like me, sometimes they simply need to be left alone. — Jodi Picoult, House Rules

Between you and me

Tony Attwood and Different Together

Marriage and lasting relationships with Asperger's Syndrome

The Rosie Effect

The Rosie Project

All Cats Have Aspergers Syndrome

My Parent Has an Autism Spectrum Disorder: A Workbook for Children & Teens

Barbara R. Lester

Something Different About Dad: How to Live With Your Aspergers Parent

From Here to Maternity: Pregnancy and Motherhood on the Autism Spectrum

Troubleshooting Relationships on the Autism Spectrum: A Users Guide to Resolving Relationship Problems

Ashley Stanford

Counselling for Asperger Couples

Barrie Thompson

Love, Sex & Long-Term Relationships: What People with AS Really Really Want

Sarah Hendrickx

Autistics Guide to Dating

Emilia Murry Ramey & Jody John Ramey

Mozart and the Whale: An Aspergers Love Story

Jerry & Mary Newport

Congratulations! Its Asperger Syndrome

Asperger Syndrome in the Family: Redefining Normal

Liane Holliday Willey

Asperger Syndrome & Adults . . . Is Anyone Listening?

Karen E. Rodman

An Asperger Marriage

Gisela & Christopher Slater-Walker

Loving Mr. Spock: Understanding an Aloof Lover - Could it be AS?

The Asperger Love Guide

Genevieve Edmonds

The Other Half of Asperger Syndrome

Asperger Syndrome and Long-Term Relationships

Ashley Stanford

Asperger Syndrome - A Love Story

Sarah Hendrickx & Keith Newton

Life with a Partner or Spouse with AS: Going Over the Edge?

The Partners Guide to Asperger Syndrome

Susan Moreno, Marci Wheeler & Keelah Parkinson

22 Things a Woman with AS Wants Her Partner to Know

22 Things a Woman Must Know: If She Loves a Man With AS

What Men with AS Want to Know about Women, Dating & Relationships

Aspergers in Love: Couple Relationships & Family Affairs

Alone Together: Making an Asperger Marriage Work

Be Different

John Elder Robison

Neurotribes: The Legacy of Autism

Steve Silberman

Self Compassion

Asperger's Syndrome for Dummies

Gina Gomez de la Cuesta

600 Hours of Edward

Craig Lancaster

Edward Adrift

Craig Lancaster

ASPIA'S Handbook for partner support

Books relating to Asperger Syndrome

Jessica Kingsley Publishers

The Asperger Couple's Workbook

The Journal of Best Practices

Connecting with your Asperger Partner

The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome

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My story

Having spent years with a gut feeling that something was very wrong in my marriage but never being able to put my finger on what it was, I finally decided last year that enough was enough and that I couldn’t and wouldn’t take it any longer. Years and years having the same conversations over and over about exactly the same problems and issues with no resolution had taken its toll, leaving me feeling isolated and alone. At the point of giving up, it was only through the suggestion of a friend that I finally made the connection between my husband’s lack of empathy or compassion, and complete inability to deal with any emotional aspect of our relationship, and the term Asperger’s. Wow! What a revelation. Suddenly everything that hadn’t made sense to me for 20 years was falling into place Initially, I was a hugely relieved to know there were others in the same boat as us with seemingly unsolvable marital problems that nobody else appeared to really understand, but already depleted from years of trying to ‘fix’ the problems myself, I struggled to find avenues of help for dealing with issues that I was only now beginning to understand. Traditional marriage guidance validated many of my relationship concerns, but with regard to solutions it drew very expensive blanks. My husband just wasn’t getting it and that’s where the initial relief started to run dry. It soon became clear that without the guidance of somebody with specialist training in AS, the problems in our marriage were actually increasing. Where was the help and support for these very specific marital issues? With my confidence and self esteem in pieces the relationship I’d worked so tirelessly to save was in tatters and was affecting every aspect of family life. I was devastated.

Finally, through the creation of this website there is hope for all NT/AS couples who want to find a way to do the right things to save their relationship but lack the tools, information and support that is vital in turning around often very difficult, complicated and dysfunctional relationship problems.